There Is Nothing Wrong With Your Child

(translated by Sylvia Lee)

When the child concentrates on one specific topic without exploring other areas, parents worry that s/he has inadequate exposure, that s/he should diversify;
When a child explores many different areas without really focusing on a particular topic, parents worry that her/his interests are too diverse & unconcentrated, that s/he should specify.

When parents approve their child’s interests, s/he is dedicated;
When parents disapprove of their child’s interests, s/he is addicted.

When a child thinks & does differently from their peers, s/he is independent;
When a child thinks & does differently from their parents, s/he is stubborn, defiant and disobedient.

If we choose to see the child as the problem, s/he will always appear problematic;
If we acknowledge our own insecurity and fear, the child is not the problem;
If we choose to see that the child simply reminds us of our own unresolved issues, s/he will appear therapeutic.

Let us all be conscious about connecting with our child/ren, to see and understand things from their perspectives, and work on our own issues separately.